Well, this chapter called, Wounded, was definitely not a fun one to go through, but very helpful and eye opening, how the wounds from our past can shape who we believe ourselves to be, and how sometimes that is so very wrong!
From our childhood we can receive wounds from our mother's and father's. From our mothers we learned what it meant to be feminine. From our mothers we learn what is means to be a women, from our fathers the value that women has. If a woman is comfortable with her own femininity, her beauty, her strength, then the chances are good that her daughter will be too.
Mothers bring us mercy and tenderness. They are a bit of a mystery to young girls, they are someone they look up to and yet know they will someday belong to the same club.
Little girls often look to their daddies looking for acceptance, wondering if they think they are lovely. Remember the twirling skirts? Above all, a little girl learns the answer to her Question from her father.
Depending on what type of childhood you had, no matter how wonderful, or not so wonderful your parents were, there are always areas that we have been wounded and still carry around with us. No parent is perfect. You can not be alive long without being wounded, it just happens. Everyone at some point will experience a broken heart.
Some women have gone through extreme pain from their childhood, but no matter how small or big your wounds are, the effects are the same. The feelings of uncertainty and worthlessness that they breed are the same.
The Messages of our Wounds Can Shape Us
The wounds we receive from our childhood bring messages with them that stick to the core of who we are, right in the place of our Question. Our wounds strike at the core of our femininity. As children we don't have the understanding to work through our wounds, so they follow us to adulthood where then surface and are either dealt with, or ignored and left to grow.
As a result of the wounds we received growing up we come to believe there is something wrong with us personally, it must be us. Through believing this, shame enters the picture and can paralyze us.
Sadly, we often get so carried away in putting ourselves down and wallowing in our shame we don't come up for air and ask of our Father how He truly sees us!
Shame can cause us to hide. Shame makes us feel uncomfortable with our beauty.
What is even more devastating than the wound though is when we see our wound and don't have the strength or care to do anything about it. There is hope and healing at the feet of Jesus!! We need to see the wound, understand where it came from, but not stay there. Sometimes a wound is deep and needs time and cultivating, removing of the old and replacing with the new, the Truth of God's Word.
Thank You Jesus that You are a God who sees our pain, who cares about our tears, who understands it all and loves us unconditionally!!!
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